FAQ About My Transition from Ghoul to Boi

I am still in the early phase of my social transition, so at this point, if the person you're talking to doesn't know about my transition, please refer to both "pre-transition" me and current me in gender-neutral terms. For the most part, I am comfortable with other people knowing that I am nonbinary and that I use they/them pronouns.

Please do not "out" me by sharing information that I am transgender, transmasculine, and/or that I use he/him pronouns without my permission as it could be detrimental. Sharing this information could lead to me experiencing transphobia/transmisia and harassment, which I would like to avoid as much as possible.

If you are speaking with someone I'm out to already, then please use masculine terms to refer to both past and present me. 

If you are telling a story about me or referring to me before I came out as trans, and if you feel it’s absolutely necessary to clarify it was “back before”, you can use the following to clarify:

• “…back when he was ‘she-ing’…”
• “…back when they were she-ing’…”
• “…before his/their transition…”
• “…before his/their ‘U-Woman’ subscription expired…”
• “…pre-transition…”

If you want to use something along those lines but aren’t sure if the wording is appropriate, feel free to send me a message and ask. 

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How do I talk about my daughter pre-transition?**

*"The past" in this context refers to any time before I began to socially transition.

**Please note that—as with all of the questions I am answering—these are all personal preferences and other trans/nonbinary people may feel differently about these things. That is normal and okay.